Home Sweet Air Conditioned Home

We had a great time in Saratoga, it was great to see my parents, sisters and some of the kids. We had fun making dinner together, catching up, and planning for our upcoming trip to the lake. Last night we brought in Thai food from our favorite restaurant, that was a treat for everyone! Although my parents home is air conditioned, their idea of cool is different than mine, I was hot and my dad was walking around with his polar fleece sweatshirt! Thank goodness when we got back to 97 degree NJ, Zen had the house nice and cool! When we left Saratoga, I once again fell for " you drive first mom, then I will drive". Silly me, I should have known when I pulled up to the gas pump and Greg just looked at me, seriously, he thought I was going to pump the gas! After completing that simple task, my darling boy proceeded to sleep until we reached NJ,(2hours). Sarah, who was wide awake for the entire trip, informed him that she was taking over the front seat from now on! I am glad we got away, it was a fun few days, and it did Sarah a world of good, she looks great! That's all for now, night all.

Road Trip

Greetings from Saratoga Springs, NY. Sarah, Greg, and I decided to visit mom and dad for a few days. We arrived on Tuesday afternoon, joining Chris, Chrisopher, Kathy, Annie, and Sammy. Sammy couldn't wait for Greg to take them all mini golfing, or as Sammy called it, "obstacle golfing." Today the boys went swimming and to the driving range, while the girls and I went shopping. Sarah took some great pictures down at the lake with her new camera; Annie was her model. Chris, Kathy, Mom and I all made dinner together, which was a lot of fun. Looking forward to another relaxing day tomorrow, and a visit to the local yarn shop, which is one of my favorites! It is nice to have a change of scenery and visit with family!

disclaimer

I have no idea why the previous post is in different colors and partially underlined.
It is a mystery!!!!!

Monday

 Hi everyone, 

On Friday we made a trip to Montclair University to check out Sarah's options 
since she can not go back to SHU until January, we decided not to decide yet!  
She needs time to get stronger, so she will most likely stay on medical leave, 
maybe take an online course, and reevaluate all of her options.
We had a quiet weekend at home, staying in and staying cool!!!  
At least Sarah and I stayed in, the boys played golf.  
Greg also went bowling on Sunday, he is becoming quite the bowler,
heeven got his own shoes!!  
I have been knitting like crazy, trying to finish up my "works in progress."  

Finally took some photos today, none of the "professionals" were available, 
so blame the quality on me and my iphone.

shawl 1

shawl 1 (back)

shawl 2

doll

Summer is here.

Hi all, trying hard to stay cool, summer arrived in full force yesterday! Monday we went to Connecticut, and it was a beautiful day, not too hot and no humidity, just the way I like it. We saw my mom and dad along with my sister Donna and her family; it is always great to see them. Family, especially the little ones, are always great morale boosters. Tuesday I visited with my dear friend, Chris, our busy lives have not given us much time to get together, it was great to see her and catch up. Wednesday was a doctor day, Sarah saw Dr. M at Overlook Hospital, great news, her blood counts are all going up, we don't have to go back for 2 weeks! Now we need to fatten her up a little, and work on improving her mood; she is just starting to process and deal with the affects of her illness. She has been through so much, but my girl is a fighter, I know she will come out of this stronger than ever!! Today we had a great visit with Sarah's " little" sorority sister and her mom, looking forward to seeing them again soon. I am now sitting in my favorite chair with 2 fans blasting, along with the air conditioner, I hope tomorrow is a little cooler! Time to get back to my knitting, but first, I want to wish all of you a happy, healthy, and not too hot summer :)

Happy Father's Day

love you dad

finally gave them all away!

memories

daddy's girl

like father, like son

The Middle of June!

Is it really the middle of June??  Did we have a Spring?  Summer is here!
Wow, time is flying by, it was just Monday morning and I was sitting here at my computer, thinking about the week ahead, and now it is Saturday!  Let's catch up: Monday was a day of finishing up the laundry, cleaning, etc... Tuesday we went down to RWJ for Sarah's MRI and blood work, since it is an hour drive each way, that took up most of the day.  Wednesday morning I went to Quest Lab in Parsippany for my blood work, in preparation for my yearly physical which is next week.  I am finally catching up on my own doctor visits; last week I went to the dentist, which was long over due by several months, next week primary care doctor, next month mammogram.  Thursday Sarah and I both went to the eye doctor, I can not believe it has been over six months since my eye surgery!! My eyesight is almost 20/20, amazing!  Sarah had a great report too, no more swelling/bleeding of the optic nerve, thank goodness!  After getting good reports on our eyes, Sarah and I went out to lunch and then to Michael's for some craft supplies.  We found some great puzzles that we want to get for our trip to the lake, but decided to wait until we had a coupon!!!!!  Friday we went back down to RWJ to see the doctor, Sarah's blood counts have all improved, and the MRI showed that the tumors have shrunk and all that remains is some scar tissue, YEAH!!!!   Sarah is being weaned from the transplant team, next week she goes back to Dr. M at Overlook Hospital,  she doesn't need to go to RWJ until August for her next MRI, double YEAH!!!!!  Sarah's recovery is moving ahead; slow and steady, but right on track.  Keep up the good work my warrior girl!

Aside from doctors this week, I was able to finish knitting a shawl and a baby blanket, and start working on a doll!  Knitting is my escape; I love the creative process, and the satisfaction of a finished product.  When I am done blocking the shawl and blanket, and finished knitting the doll clothes, my new photographer, aka Sarah, will take photos for me to post.

Friday night was spent enjoying the beautiful evening with great friends :)
Pizza, wine, music, and special friends; who could ask for more!

Here's to many more happy summer days and nights.

Back from the Edge!

Hi all, I'm back from the edge!
I have been feeling so down, blue, discouraged, unhappy, and over stressed the past few days, I wanted a break from reality.  Problem is, there is no way to escape from the problems in your life, they always seem to be hovering close by.  Facing the bad and looking for solutions is the only way to keep going and to move on.  I am really struggling with the havoc that cancer has brought to my family; I feel trapped by its far reaching powers.  Sarah is still dealing with the physical and emotional side effects of her illness; she just wants to be done, she wants her old life back.  Problem is realizing and accepting that the "old normal" is gone, and acknowledging that a "new normal" needs to be created.  Change is never easy, especially when you feel that it is being forced down your throat; it is also not easy to be the one doing the "forcing."  I hope that Sarah can come to terms with, and embrace the changes in her life.  Right now, for many reasons, going back to Sacred Heart U is not a viable option, but Sarah has been offered some great alternatives, so she can resume her education and still be home.  I hope she can accept this, and turn her disappointment  into something positive.  The future will be bright, and happy if she chooses for it to be!!!  Attitude is everything :)

Aside from dealing with Sarah and her future, I have been dealing with the financial burden of cancer, and it is huge!  The stem cell transplant phase of her treatment is literally hundreds of thousands of dollars. This was all pre-certified with the insurance company, by the hospital, so why are we still getting bills????
I spent several hours over many days searching on line for, and trying to decipher E.O.B's (explanation of benefits) from the insurance company; then I had to match these to the bills.  If I did this all correctly, it was worth the time, according to the E.O.B's the hospital was paid the contracted rate, and we do not have to pay the difference.  (Thank goodness, since we are still paying off phase one).  I made copies of all the statements and today I will mail them, let the hospital and the insurance company battle it out!

I have spent the past 5 months, in and out of the hospital, with Sarah, not really giving much thought to what the house looked like; this past weekend I took a good look :( :( Apparently the boys did not give the house much thought either, forget dust bunnies, we had dust elephants!!!! They have all been put to rest; I cleaned like a mad woman yesterday, scrubbing, dusting and vacuuming almost the whole house!
Zen's office and Greg's room remain untouched, hopefully the boys will pick up on the cleanliness theme, and clean their caves!!!

With any luck the weather will cooperate and we will have some sunny days ahead, without the afternoon thunder and rain.  Here's to brighter days!
Maria :)

Wednesday June 6

Greetings from my rocking chair, I am taking time out from disapointing my daughter to knit and watch TV. I am apparently also guilty of being to easy on my son, I can't win these days, someone is always unhappy. Yesterday Zen and I took Sarah down to RWJ for her weekly check-up. She had blood work done and then we met with one of the nurse practitioners; Sarah lost more weight, her counts went down a little, and she is neutropenic again. It seems every time we take 1 step forward, we take 2 steps back! Sarah is still taking a lot of medicine, the meds make her sleepy and nauseous, she doesn't eat much and that adds to the nausea; around and around we go. The nurse eliminated one medicine, and cut back on another, hopefully that will help; she also suggested that Sarah eat more protein, get some light exercise, and even spend a little time in the sun, hopefully she will listen. It seems like forever, but in actuality it has been only 29 days since the stem cell transplant, it takes an average of 100 days to recover, and up to six months to really get your strength back; I am sure Sarah will be fine, it is me I am not so sure about! I think I have reached my limit when it comes to stress and dealing with my families expectations. I think it is time for a family meeting! For now, back to knitting. :(

Another Rainy Day

It is Monday morning, and I just realized my last post was on Wednesday, what the heck have I been doing?????  Sorted through medical bills, laundry, cleaned and organized pantry, shopping, mani/pedi, took Sarah to see friends go off to prom, out to dinner, scrap book with Sarah, knit, nap, watch the Devil's lose again, listen to Sarah complain when power went out for an hour, waited up for Greg to get home from work to remind him he has dentist on Monday, watched Mad Men, slept........And here we are, back to Monday, my life is so exciting!  This week we have more doctors, dentist, college visits, and who knows what else?  Time to go wake up Sarah and give her her meds, wake up Greg and get him out the door for dentist, find my calendar and make more coffee.  :)